Monday, December 03, 2012

Moving

I had an opportunity arise a few months ago that I jumped on. A chance to manage a team. Doesn't matter the level there is something rewarding working with younger guys and mentoring them in this game and in life.

What really sucked about it was the fact that I would have to move pretty far away from the life that i have established here. When I settled down into my condo and my new post-player life I was an entirely different person. I was single, still in the closet and not really comfortable with my life.

Today... I'm an openly gay man in a loving relationship just trying to keep my career and work life in order and balance.

I was approached by my new employer and we had a serious talk about the position. I was very open about the fact that I had a boyfriend and that if I were to accept the job he would be moving with me. I wanted to be upfront so that there was no surprise once I got there. I have been pretty quiet with my personal life in my old job and just didn't feel like having it be a skeleton in my closet. Management was surprised with my declaration but it did not matter to them. I was the man for this job.

Now the hardest part. Talking to Reid about this opportunity and convincing him to move away with me. Move a pretty long way away from what we have established here. A really great group of friends.

Reid and I have a long standing tradition that we go out for dinner on Wednesday nights together. Don't ask me why... I think we wanted something to look forward to midweek. But no matter what we go out every Wednesday. It's our time together. We sat down at this local pub we like to go to and I told him that I was approached by a team from a place far away that presented an opportunity to do something that I love and I was thinking of taking the offer seriously but only if he was interested in coming with me.

Which got us into a conversation of what he means to me and why I want him by my side for this journey. I was surprised with how excited he was about this possible move. What I think got him really excited was the fact that we would be moving together and moving in with each other.

Now... it wasn't all that smooth. He wanted to think about it but the look on his face when I first told him about the job was "Yes". This place wanted me so bad that they gave us a three day trial in the city to see how we liked it. Of course we loved staying in a nice hotel, close to downtown and had a great mini vacation while trying on a new city for size.

What was great was that we used that time to talk, reconnect and talk about our dreams of what we wanted to do in our life and our relationship. I'm happy to say that we decided to make the move and it's turned out pretty good. Reid had a chance to "work from home" and we actually get to spend a lot of time together.

Once the New Year starts my job will get crazy but right now with the holidays I'm happy to have my boyfriend next to me.


26 comments:

rugbysex said...

I can't tell you how happy i am for you and Reid! I wish you both much happiness and joy and satisfaction in your new position. Long story but my partner is a doc in a large university hospital 2 hours south of me. i have family obligations that keep me where i am. We've had to settle for a weekend relationship. i haven't wanted him to give up his position and life just to be w/ me. Recently, he's made me realize he wants a life w/ me no matter where that's at. You CAN make it work. All the best for a wonderful holiday and happy and healthy New Year.
Cheers!

dan said...

hey good to hear from you. that is very very very cool that he moved with you and you're in a new place. hope the job goes well. great post thanks for the update slugger!

Mike said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! That's awesome to be with a team that is so supportive and that you have made great strides with an amazing boyfriend.

Ivan said...

That is such good news... I wish you the very best for this new life experiences... It is nice to hear that your partner is so suportive and wants to be with you... I hope you keep telling us about your life, and I know the people who reads this blog wish you happiness and success in your new job... Merry christmas and a happy 2013...

Jerry said...

What a great opportunity to advance both your career and your relationship. While leaving the comfort of your existing home is difficult, having your BF there with you is going to make the transition easier. You have each other and where ever you go together, that will be home.

Jack said...

True love is when your boyfriend will follow you wherever you go! Best wishes in the next chapter of your lives.

Jack said...

True love is when your boyfriend will follow you wherever you go! Best wishes in the next chapter of your lives.

Grand said...

your posts always make me feel like theres a chance i can meet an amazing guy too. so happy for you =)

Late Struggler said...

Aha you finally update Slugger! I went through all your posts this summer and loved your stories! Such a relief to see that you haven't stop blogging. All the best to you two!

Herbs D. said...

glad things are working out for you, hope it goes on & on with only a few bumps along the way :)

Jon Doe said...

Sup man. I wrote you a couple of days ago under your latest post but I don't think it went through. Anyways I am a current pro athlete that is a closet bi and I was wondering if I can get advice and your input. Thanks hopefully we will chat soon

RADICALJOE said...

Slugger, you have really slugged thru your years, hiding and worrying, it can really can affect everything about yourself. What a Freedom to be yourself and tell your new bosses that you are what you are. You really can be proud and happy with Reid. When I read
of your move, tingling and hope
that you will be together for a long,long time. I have followed
all you posts, and know, what is NOW THE HAPPINESS in your new LIFE.

RADICALJOE said...

Slugger, you have really slugged thru your years, hiding and worrying, it can really can affect everything about yourself. What a Freedom to be yourself and tell your new bosses that you are what you are. You really can be proud and happy with Reid. When I read
of your move, tingling and hope
that you will be together for a long,long time. I have followed
all you posts, and know, what is NOW THE HAPPINESS in your new LIFE.

umpcua said...

so glad to hear things going well. So often our relationships burn out or 'wondering eyes' cause breakups. Also good to hear 'next generation' of baseball may be more open to Gays! Everytime I hear the word 'faggot' uttered on the field or bounced around a locker room, even in gest, it bothers me.

RiF said...

I haven't really been actively following you for a while, but logged in today and saw that news. Thats awesome man!! very happy for you and where this journey has taken you. Congratulations and best of luck.

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themusicprophet said...

Just have to say that you sir are inspiring. I've been reading this from the beginning and was in the closet as well all the way through High School and the first 5 years of my twenties. My reason wasn't career oriented like yours, instead it was due to my families religious upbringing, but I feel the stress all the same. This year, just 6 months before my 26th birthday, I stepped out of the closet for the first time, just in time to get my heart broken. It was a devastating year.... BUT... You sir, have made it a little brighter with this new post. It's a reminder that the right guys ARE out there... You just have to find them. I'm looking forward to the rest of my 20's ... and I hope in the next 4 years, I'm able to find someone as special as Reid. ;)

Best of luck to you both, and Congrats on your new life!

Kyle said...

Congrats Slugger and i'm so happy for you and Reid. I've been following your blog for long time just never posted on it. It's awesome you were able to get Reid to move with you and do a job that you love to do. props to you man.

Kyle
http://www.mascdudes.blogspot.com/

Just Jeffrey said...

I just tried to contact you with the contact info you have listed and aol said it was not a vailid username? The reason I wanted to contact you is I am trying to launch a new gay blogger and I was hoping you would consider posting a few of your blogs to help me get it going
www.gaywebsource.com/connect click where it says blogger and you will see what I am trying to do.. thanks... and congrats : )

American Irish said...

Good to hear things are working out for you.

Unknown said...

Sounds like you've got a great job and a great man. Congratulations man, hope things continue to go well for you.

Jason_M said...

Keep in touch!

Teuf666 said...

Hey Sluggo. Sure miss you here in cyber....please let us know how you boys are doing!

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Thanks,

Tobias.

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Athletic-Achiever said...

Too bad there are now other updates.
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