I had an opportunity arise a few months ago that I jumped on. A chance to manage a team. Doesn't matter the level there is something rewarding working with younger guys and mentoring them in this game and in life.
What really sucked about it was the fact that I would have to move pretty far away from the life that i have established here. When I settled down into my condo and my new post-player life I was an entirely different person. I was single, still in the closet and not really comfortable with my life.
Today... I'm an openly gay man in a loving relationship just trying to keep my career and work life in order and balance.
I was approached by my new employer and we had a serious talk about the position. I was very open about the fact that I had a boyfriend and that if I were to accept the job he would be moving with me. I wanted to be upfront so that there was no surprise once I got there. I have been pretty quiet with my personal life in my old job and just didn't feel like having it be a skeleton in my closet. Management was surprised with my declaration but it did not matter to them. I was the man for this job.
Now the hardest part. Talking to Reid about this opportunity and convincing him to move away with me. Move a pretty long way away from what we have established here. A really great group of friends.
Reid and I have a long standing tradition that we go out for dinner on Wednesday nights together. Don't ask me why... I think we wanted something to look forward to midweek. But no matter what we go out every Wednesday. It's our time together. We sat down at this local pub we like to go to and I told him that I was approached by a team from a place far away that presented an opportunity to do something that I love and I was thinking of taking the offer seriously but only if he was interested in coming with me.
Which got us into a conversation of what he means to me and why I want him by my side for this journey. I was surprised with how excited he was about this possible move. What I think got him really excited was the fact that we would be moving together and moving in with each other.
Now... it wasn't all that smooth. He wanted to think about it but the look on his face when I first told him about the job was "Yes". This place wanted me so bad that they gave us a three day trial in the city to see how we liked it. Of course we loved staying in a nice hotel, close to downtown and had a great mini vacation while trying on a new city for size.
What was great was that we used that time to talk, reconnect and talk about our dreams of what we wanted to do in our life and our relationship. I'm happy to say that we decided to make the move and it's turned out pretty good. Reid had a chance to "work from home" and we actually get to spend a lot of time together.
Once the New Year starts my job will get crazy but right now with the holidays I'm happy to have my boyfriend next to me.