Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Other Gay Athletes

Support for gay athletes is at an all time high. I've been getting questions about why I haven't talked about the NHL and Brendan Burke "You can Play" program. Why I haven't talked about the "It Gets Better" videos that numerous baseball teams and colleges have created.

I'm not much of a news site and guess that I should have posted my feelings about how monumental this past year has been. I don't see myself as much of an activist. Am I a role model? I guess. Do I want to be a poster boy for gay athletes professional and amateur? No.

Most of this site contains stories about my sexual past, nearly naked men and ramblings of a young, immature baseball player coming to terms with his sexuality. It's my digital journal is growing up and realizing that I am not alone in the world and that I am not the first person to ever deal with these feelings and these problems.

I've had a chance to talk with many other athletes out there who have shared stories of their own. Asked for advice when clearly I was not one to give advice to them because I had my own problems I was dealing with. Who was I to dispense advice?

I'm older, wiser and feel like now I am in a place where I can give out advice from my past experiences and truly know what it's like to come full circle from a scared teenager to a boring adult with an amazing partner that I used to only dream of.

So what is going on with Reid and I? We are a fucking boring couple. Honestly. I have been traveling a lot and over the last week I have finally been able to settle down and enjoy 10 un-interupted days with Reid.

That's rare and I have enjoyed every single day I've had with him. I know that this bliss really pisses a lot of you off because you want to hear about all of the crazy, raunchy and dirty sex we have while wearing jock straps, baseball gear, etc... but it's kinda different. Maybe it's because I'm in love with the guy? I don't know.

I do have a story of a dude I have been chatting with for almost a year who is an athlete at a pretty big university and dated a baseball player. Writing it up for all of you so you can at least get some juicy stories from someone.

29 comments:

rugbysex said...

boring can be nice. very, very nice. my 4 month recovery from the experimental 20+ hr. surgery keeps us apart during the week. but my guy and i enjoy nothing more than being just a boring couple. all best wishes from us to you and Reid. i'm only 36 but i'm already looking forward to growing old together. yikes hahaha!
cheers!

Jerry said...

Even though you are in love, you still can have hot sex with baseball gear. :-)

Joseph said...

I like just hanging out with a bf. It's nice :) Sadly I haven't done it in a long while

Dark Stormy Nights said...
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Stormy Nights said...

Dude you have a great blog even if it doesn't contain stories of the sexual aspect of your life. I enjoy reading about your life because how often do you hear about the struggles in the sport world about sexuality. Plus relationship is alright to be boring, I wishing for the best for you two. Sorry for the deleted post, I was trying to find the right words to say without making it sound lame.

Jack said...

We are NOT pissed off because you are happy. We are happy for you.

Jack said...

We are NOT pissed off because you are happy. We are happy for you.

mac said...

Good to hear that you and Reid are doing well. It's never boring being in love for fucks sake!

I hope that you do succeed in giving some advice to younger athletes. Your story made a lot of sense to me, I could recognize so much and could have used some of the advice when I was a young kid in competitive sport, dating girls, hot for guys and in total denial of who I was. I couldn't make my masculine and straight acting self fit with the image of gay men as all flamboyant and effeminate. I didn't realize that there were guys like myself out there. I think you could help a lot of boys feeling that way.

And finally I must admit that my boyfriend and I don't mind being in love and still having dirty sex.

Mike said...

I love the simple updates of how your life is going. I don't visit your site for stories of the dirty sex (though I won't complain about that), and I am happy to see your life going so well.

Cam Mendoza said...

I really enjoyed reading your blog. I think you would enjoy reading mine. It's about my closeted relation with a basketball player while I was in college.

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Jason_M said...

I'm hopeful that critical mass will soon be achieved and that sexual orientation will cease to be much of an issue in sports. My sense is that it's coming along fairly quickly.

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scrumrob said...

I think boring is the wrong word. Contentment seems to fit your situation, better. I am glad to read that your relationship is normal. Two people in a relationship cannot avoid occasional disagreements or just having a cranky day that is no one's fault. You and Reid seem to recongise your humanity and simply deal with them

I don't want to make you into the poster boys (men) for happy-ever-after relationships, but I am really happy that you have reached a state of contentment after a lifetime of anxiety. That in itself makes the journey worth the effort.

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Jon Doe said...

hey mann...just seen your blog and was very intrigue as i am a closeted athlete myself...if you ever want to chat let me know...jondoeblow@gmail.com

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Jason_M said...

I see I commented a while ago. Now, sayin I'd love to read something about the athletes you've been talking with. Also congrats on your new job and new life. I get teary every time I think about your evolution.