Thursday, April 19, 2012

Life isn't perfect

Don't read into the title too much.

Life has got in the way of the blog and most of you guys know that I am not a frequent, everyday blogger. It's a busy time. Baseball season is now in full swing and my life gets more complicated by the day constantly being on the road and away from the boyfriend for long periods of time.

When I do get to spend a lot of time with Reid I cherish every moment.Our relationship may play out like a fairy tale on here but I do leave out little fights that we have from time to time. those are natural to have over the course of a relationship.

What I do love about him is that he is incredibly level headed. He's caring. He's always there for me when I need him and above all he is loyal.

Something I have noticed a lot in the gay world is that cheating sometimes isn't that big of a deal. It is to me. I only want to be with Reid. We had a talk about threesomes after hanging out with another couple one night.

The other couple, let's call them Gary and Ben, were talking about how they have invited a third guy into their relationship. He's a 21 year old college student... a hot twinky plaything that they can both play with together or separately.

I asked how it worked and they said that they needed some spark in their sex life and could not resist how hot the kid was.

After dinner Reid and I talked about the whole situation and I flatly said that I wanted Reid all to myself. He agreed and didn't really see the need to share me with anyone else. It's just not something we are interested in doing and that's fine. I know a couple that are both "tops" and have been dating for the last 3 years. They have sex with other people and don't have sex with each other. I'm not one to judge someone. I just know what I want and what I like.

Back to Gary and Ben... After that dinner party it turns out that the twinky college boy fell for Ben. Like fell in love with Ben and was disgusted with Gary. He professed this to Ben and asked him to leave Gary. A fight ensued and Gary left. A week later the twink boy moved home and started dating a bartender or DJ and Ben was left with a broken relationship and possibly herpes.


16 comments:

d said...

hahaha! it sucks i know, but kinda funny too.

Mike said...

Great to see you back blogging. It's always good to get updates on how your life is going, and I wish you and Reid nothing but the best.

Immanuel said...

Yep, threesomes are tricky things. My partner and I have been contemplating doing it and I wrote about it.

http://dlconfessionssequel.com/2011/11/23/the-threesome-rules/

As your relatinonship develops you may decide to pen things up or not. That is one of the great things about being gay, the flexibility of sexual relationships.

dan said...

most awesome post and so true!
good for you and R's loyalty and monogamy, hell yeah it can and should be expected same for straight or gay couples ,congrats it works!! :)
dan

Jason_M said...

What Dan said.

Jerry said...

Your journey and transformation has been inspirational to many. We hear so much about the promiscuous gays and it's backed with lots of examples so it's refreshing to see that guys can remain monogamous to the ones they love. Thanks for the update, wish we had more regular peeks into your life.

mac said...

It's really good to hear from you again. Does your baseball buds and coworkers more or less know about Reid by now? I follow you on being in a relationship, an open one wouldn't work for my boyfriend and me neither.

Talking about good gay relationships, I have totally fallen for the youtuber Shep689 who is uploading the sweetest videos cut out from his everyday life with his boyfriend, RJ. They are both not only cute and hot but also smart and funny, and to me the most important point is the completely awesomness combined with a 'reconizableness' there is to their relationship. I feel like I have found two soulmates to me and my boyfriend :]

cwazeygayboi said...

I am sooooo glad that you and Reid are committed to each other, it is such a wonderful thing to see!!!

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Crazeebee747 said...

Part of me thinks old Ben got what he was after. Chasing something that was not real. But reading your post, it is amazing to see how you see so much more to your relationship. Awesome!

Unknown said...

Great post and I'm glad to know there are other guys out there who are monogamous and only want to be with one person. Hope your friends work out their issues and glad to hear you're happy.

GVP said...

Nice post. It's so adorable how you flatly said you want Reid to yourself :)

Anthony said...

Promiscuity is more about changing what's itching internally than loving someone else.
Good therapy helps to get to the bottom of desires

Nguyen Bo said...

Alone, loyalty is a valuable gift so don't waste it just for a night.

HellYeahYeah Yes said...

Life isn't perfect you are right, nice to read your blog! :D

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