Thursday, December 15, 2011


It's amazing to get an overwhelming amount of support from people in real life and from guys like you who read the blog and have been coming back to read about my life even though I take long breaks from posting on the site. I wanted to say thank you to everyone who has reached out to comment or send me an email.

The support I have received has been amazing. First and foremost... Reid has been by my side since I returned and endured a lot from me over the last few weeks.

What I left out of the stories below is that Reid and I had a conversation on the phone when I was home where I yelled at him for not being there for me. I wasn't clear in what I meant and he took what I said wrong and was incredibly angry at me. In any relationship it takes time for someone to settle down and realize what was going on in the situation.

When I returned home from NY, Reid was at the airport waiting for me. I did not know how he was going to react. If he was still mad at me for our conversation (argument) that we had a few days prior. He came up to me and gave me a huge hug and held me. It's one of those moments where you in the middle of an embrace and it just feels so incredibly right and so incredibly comforting that you just don't want it to end.

That night he made dinner for me at his place and watched some Netflix on his couch. We cuddled on the couch and just held each other.

In the time since that night I have needed some space to just reflect over what happened. Then my dad came to visit. After he left Reid would drop by my office to just say hi, take me to lunch and just be around to talk about anything and everything I ever needed. He's incredibly thoughtful and don't know what I did in a past life to deserve such a caring and amazing individual.


Anonymous said...

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.

When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, "I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.
–Kahlil Gibran


Jerry said...

What you have is very special in Reid and I'm quite sure you return his affection. It's just wonderful how things ultimately turned out. With the support of your dad, your mom will soon follow. Just as you needed some space to process, so does she.

dan said...

sound very awesome that you guys make each other happy.. excellent update post!

NorcalSam said...

You're truly blessed to have found Reid, someone who can support you and be there for you in all the ways you need. Good luck as you continue making the coming out journey. It does not truly ever end.

I for one appreciate your updates. Write as much as you want to let us know how you are doing.

Anonymous said...

Dear Slugger and Reid,

May the spirit of Christmas bring you peace,
The gladness of Christmas give you hope,
The warmth of Christmas grant you love.

May you never forget
What is worth remembering
Or remember
What is best forgotten.

Pax tibi fraters!

dan said...

Merry Christmas to you! hope had a good one and the family had time to think and give you some good discussion and support. Happy New Year. dan

Tiger Blue said...

I am going to take a wild ass guess that the Holidays were prolly not as smooth as you'd have liked them to go - with your folks and who-knows-who-else.

When that big elephant fell out of the closet, the initial "klump" on the floor is usually only the first; those damn follow-up waves can be the real mindbenders (IMHO).

It was for me. And it continues on through today.

There's always "someone" who has not been on the train. And each time they board, it's another wave ripple - to remind the folks about grand-kids, the white picket fence. Et Cetera.

Such is the way it is.
Not my choice.
Not your choice.
It just is.
Hang in there Snoopy.
Happy New Year
December 31, 2011

Mr Vain said...

I have recently started blogging and found your blog, I really enjoy it and can relate to your fear of coming out. It took me nearly four years from first realising I was gay to coming out to my friends and eventually family, but when I did it felt great.

I hope you and Reid had an amazing Christmas and New Year and have a lovely future together. I have been with my boyfriend now for 18 months and same as you we started out as a bit of fun. Now I can't imagine life without him and he helped me truely appreciate life as an out gay.

I also have a blog and would love feedback from anyone reading it as it is something new and I want to make it into something people enjoy reading. Check it out

Thanks x

hese said...

Hello. I just find your blog today and i have to say, i enjoyed reading it :) hoping all the best for you and Reid :)

qkross said...

Does anyone have the Posters email? I wrote an email regarding my reaction and thoughts, but don't have an address to send it to.

Please let me know!

Tiger Blue said...

January 12, 2011
Hey Slugger...How's it going?
Happy New Year...
We're all looking for an update :)