Sunday, July 12, 2009

The Porn Star and All Star

Happy All Star Break! This is a great time of year. Not only do ball players get a few days off to relax, go see family and recharge... lucky few get to go play in All Star games.

Now, most of you know about the MLB All Star Game. There is also a Futures game that features some of the up-and-coming all stars in the minor leagues.

One of the perks of making an all star roster is that everything is paid for. You have obligations to go and do press and fan events but for the most part you get paid to hang out with family and friends.

I won't exactly tell you guys what I will be doing for my all star break but I thought I would tell a story that has been brewing the last few months.

A few months ago I was contacted by a porn star. He is a reader of this blog. He e-mailed me to tell me how much he loved the blog. It started off as just an e-mail. As we got to chatting I found out that he is an amateur porn star.

He started off with a few "solo" films and gradually moved into being a top on camera. The way he described it brought me back to my first time. How nervous you are but the rush and thrill of it.

At the time he had a girlfriend and was looking to make some extra cash on the side. The more he did videos and more he was with a guy the more he loved it.

This made him nervous that he was becoming gay and stopped doing porn for a while but found himself looking at gay porn when he wasn't with his girlfriend. That's when he found my blog. Looking for pics.

He dumped his girlfriend and decided to try and date a guy. He started dating another pornstar but found himself jealous when he was with other guys on and off screen.

He e-mailed me to tell me his story. We got to chatting and the guy is really cool. He was an athlete growing up all the way through college. Once he graduated he became a personal trainer and was "discovered" via his Myspace page.

As we kept chatting I found myself drawn to him. He would talk about college and all of that.

Then he offered me a trip to Southern California to "hang out with him" I politely said no. He said we could have some fun.

He is willing to pay for the trip and the thought of banging a porn star for 3 days is enticing. Thoughts?

19 comments:

joey said...

You simply cannot verify the truth of this offer without exposing yourself. If you meet someone online and they don't know what you do, then the truth can unfold as you build trust. If you meet someone through this blog, you can't know exactly who your dealing with until its too late.

There are crazy people out there that use the internet for fun and games. This guy may be who he claims to be, but once he meets you he may cause problems. Like more meetings with him in exchange for his silence. There is a potential to undo everything you worked for, I say not worth the risk.

Anonymous said...

I have to agree with Joey. A big NO. If this person is not on the up and up, they could blackmail you to keep your secret.

a said...

Ditto to those guyz. Guy claims to be part of an "industry" that thrives on exploitation. Maybe you have a great weekend, maybe the sex is awesome, maybe not. But he's got nothing at stake. Hell, he might even come across someone professionally that makes it worth his while to out you..

Anonymous said...

Ahhh let's see now shall we... Closeted Baseball player... dates Porn Star... oh yea that works

sheriffjoe said...

Here's the trouble with being a "fantasy" person to so many people...you're a human being, too, with your own desires and fantasies. Should you decide to do this, you will be opening up yourself to a lot of possibilities, both good and bad.

It's your call. It always is. Are you willing to take the risk of being exposed to fulfill a fantasy...which may or may not be as good as your mind wants it to be?

Further, and most importantly, there are already red flags all over the place, with jealousy being a reason for the guy breaking up with his last boyfriend. Sorry, but in my life experience, jealousy such as that is a sign of someone feeling a sense of possession over another person. That isn't love or friendship, but a sense of ownership.

So...you should NOT meet anyone from this site unless you are willing to expose your identity...because once it gets out who you are in the real world, there will be people out there you don't even know exist who will try to exploit that. Sad, but true.

The truth is, you should not be in ANY kind of relationship as long as you are keeping a part of yourself hidden from the world. It isn't fair to you or to your partner. Be a manwhore until you retire. Make your straight friends. Beat off to gay porn and visit the bookstores and illicit cruise sites. But you are not ready for a relationship with another man...certainly not an open, honest and loving relationship. From what I've read here, I can confidently say that it isn't you, but rather your situation. Accept that this is how it is and how it has to be as long as you are where you are.

Someday, once you are out of baseball, I am sure you will be ready to have a wonderful life with another man.

abristolnovella said...

if it makes you happy, do it

borg_queen said...

Indeed, NO. Tempting, but hell no.

Anonymous said...

It sounds great but I am afraid you would get in over your head. He does sex for a living. I think in time you would be unhappy with all the men in his life like he felt with the other porn star. Stick with the regular folks... I am sure you can find a nice guy without all the risks. Just my opinion..

VpO said...

It's tempting . . . but that weekend of "hot sex" (if its even good) could be responsible for more drama later on. Especially if you're set on staying in the closet for now.

Anonymous said...

A lot of NO comments on here and I have to agree. If you do this, it will more than likely come back to haunt you. I also wonder if this is somewhat of a revenge fuck against your ex so you can say that you fucked a pornstar after him. I also believe the jealousy thing would eat at you after awhile considering he's a pornstar, ESPECIALLY after what your ex did. I'm guessing you probably still have some trust issues as it is. Good luck bud!

Anonymous said...

I say keep doing the hottie lawyer that you posted about recently. He sounds perfect for you in comparison to this offer.

John B said...

I think it does sound tempting. I've always fantasized about being with a pornstar but the reality of it doesn't sound good.

Anonymous said...

Three simple words:
NO! NO! NO!

Dude, I did the same thing as you are tempted to do. In 2000, as a married man with two small children I gave into the temptation to spend a hot weekend in Vegas with a porn star. It was hot, exciting, allowed me to express my bisexual desires for the first time to another person, (versus anonymous hook-ups)

I thought it would be harmless. It wasn't. The guy seduced me into subsequent meetings; each time he learned more about me and finally took advantage of my need for secrecy. He knew I had money and the blackmail began. The details are too easy to imagine, I won't put myself through the pain again.
He would call my home phone, he threatened to expose ALL if I did not "help" him through a bad time.

Just imagine this; you are promoted to the majors, you atart to get traction with a MLB team and news of your new contract are made public. Based upon what you tell us about your looks...girls/woman begin to pursue you and web sites and chat rooms trade stories of how "cute" "built" you are. What a stud you become known as; on top of your baseball skills.
Just as your dreams are starting to fill out; this guy shows up looking for money. The threats to your new found stardom are obvious.
He may even have hidden camera/audio to share.
He will pursue you for the money.
He is in porn, no matter what you try and tell yourself about him, those who do porn have no self respect. They will do anything to get what they want - usually money because their dreams have not panned out or the quick cash from porn flicks went up their nose.

If you want to preserve your identity because baseball is your #1 pursuit and goal in life....do not allow the "evil" of one man or one weekend derail your dream!!!

You can reach me at studsmiling@hotmail.com for more details on my horror show.

Be well, be smart!

Anonymous said...

Very risky --- run from the offer.

Anonymous said...

Don't do it man. Just don't do it. Keep on banging the hottie lawyer if you need some good sex, but stay away from this guy - he could ruin your career.

mikeinbama said...

Don't do it, Porn stars are gross. You don't need a drug addicted filthy porn star in your life.

Dylan said...

Do you serously believe it's worth everything you've achieved so far? All the hard work and all? Just for a weekend?!
Why are you even considering it?
F* the lawyer in the meantime and if you want imagine the pornstar while you do it. But don't you f* your life. You know people tend to be different when you see them in persone. HA!

Anonymous said...

in conclusion, dont have sex with anyone that read your blog :P

borg_queen said...

Everyone's mentioning the hottie lawyer? When was that? Wasn't that like 3 years ago?